Tuesday, March 19, 2013

Color Outside the Lines

"If we are perfect our life is a blank and boring as a sheet of white paper.
I would rather you live a life that is paper torn at the edges,
 has cross outs and new beginnings ( in pen), 
color outside of any line.  

Because then I would know that you have truly lived and not merely existed."

Mrs. Francis May Burke advice to me after my brother passed away in a car accident. 
Just about the same time that my father didn't hide the fact that he preferred sleeping at the next door neighbor's home, instead of with his grieving wife & lonely daughter.
 I was seeing Francis,our school social worker, because I was, as a dramatic teenage girl, frustrated with my life that was not perfect.

Thank you, Francis.   

Many years later, aren't we all happy that we battled through the imperfection & still do on a daily basis.


Watching people end their "not so perfect lives" because they see only black and white lines of what defines perfect instead of relishing in the beauty of color...inside and  outside of the lines; it is so sad.
I wish I could tell every teen out there the same thing Francis May told me.....Live LIFE, do not just exist. 

I have added the following for my own daughters to think about:

"Because then I would know that you have truly lived and not merely existed....  
The piece of paper will turn into a beautiful piece of art at the end of time."

I have found joy and peace in my being Not Perfect, Only Human.

Saturday, March 16, 2013

Francis Inspired



Thinking of St Francis.....

My daughter has recently started watching the Brother Francis DVDs (available here)  If you have young children and you have not seen these, you have to preview them on the website.  The songs are fun and he is such a great teacher of the faith to little ones.  What a  gift he is sharing with the world.

There is a beautiful coloring page on his blog in time for the upcoming Easter celebrations, take  a peek :)

Who is not just amazed by these stories of Pope Francis, too?  I'm so encouraged by his humility & peaceful nature.  He spent his first morning in prayer with the Blessed Mother.

from the NY TIMES, Europe Section

On the rock of Peter, Christ built the Catholic Church.  How amazing, Peter lied about his discipleship with  Christ three times, yet he became the rock on which to build the church.  Clearly, God sees things so differently than we do, judges so perfectly.  In our world, Peter betrayed and didn't deserve the first Papal chair.  In God's world, Peter confessed openly the agony of his betrayal, was forgiven and took the role that God gave him in a devoted manner, to the end of his life.  How much he must have grown in his faith from his sin, his confession, his forgiveness. 

He was, as Christs disciple, Not perfect, Only human.  

But in Gods eyes, clearly, Peter was something special. 

So is Pope Francis.

So are you.

God Bless :)

Friday, March 15, 2013

Lent is a PAA :)

Welcome, come in, stay, read, imagine and renew.

If you think of Lent as a PIA, then I invite you to read a little further to see why I think of it as a PAA.

Ash Wednesday, we began our Lenten Journey of 40 days (which does not include Sundays, yippeeeee!) towards Easter, the most important celebration of Christians.


As an aside, when I was little I thought (of course) that Christmas was the most important Christian Celebration all year. See about that here. The mountain of presents, the traditions, the decorations, the constant frizzle and frazzle that created a day of food and finery that children just were in awe of and anxiously anticipated.  However, a sweet nun enlightened me once.  Her words were something like this: He is the God of Creation, He could have created any numerous ways to bring Christ, man and God, into being.  He chose bringing Him from the beginning, as a baby.  But he did not have to.  That the Baby grew into a man and suffered for sin and brought down Satan and opened the Gates of Heaven for all, that is what is most worthy of celebration.  Easter is the most important holiday.
  I still remember her gray hair and black heavy habit.  I remember thinking wow!! I never knew THAT!!! 
and DOUBLE Wow! 
I wish I had faith like THAT!!!
I love the WOWness of Childhood :)

Now, if you find large celebrations unnerving at times, with all of the shopping, the spending, the buying, the spending, the baking, the eating, the cooking, the eating, the cleaning, the exhaustion, the decorating, the exhaustion; you might want to take a MUCH CLOSER LOOK at Lent and why it is a PAA. 

In preparing for Lent, we start with (of all things) dirty foreheads, we do not have to worry about fancy clothes, fancy anything, Good thing because my windows are filthy this time of the year, so my forehead might as well be a bit soiled too.  Dust to dust.

Now where are we going to take this dust?

Into Prayer, more of it everyday. Prayer at morning, and night and anytime we want.  A conscientious effort to spend more time talking to the God who created all of us and the world around us, and maybe figuring out what He may have been trying to tell us.   We miss a a lot of Him when we are so busy, busy, busy preparing for other celebrations.  Like with Christmas, we are preparing the OUTSIDE: the homes, the clothes, our hair, the food, the cleaning, the buying the preparation of all the stuff on the outside.  Sometimes at Christmas everything looks beautiful on the outside but on the inside (in our hearts) things may just be a bit messy, you know.  Sometimes, it leaves people feeling deflated when the big day arrives because we are not even in touch with what we are really celebrating.  However in Lent, we prepare for Easter by PREPPING the INSIDE (of us) with Prayer!  How easy is that???!!!!! 

Into Abstinence, this is the one I really feel relieved about because I only am now learning to cook and it is such a relief to know that I do not have to cook, cook, cook and bake, bake, and bake.  I can pass on the dessert and the extra rich food.  But, I also like what saying NO can do to my pocket book, it starts to feel like a pocketbook again :)

Into Almsgiving, this might sound like someone is asking for you to pick up that pocket book and spend what you do not have, but that is not true.  Almsgiving does not have to always be writing a check.  Sometimes the true benefit of Almsgiving is when you donate time to a worthy cause. Volunteering where people suffer often leaves thankfulness for blessings we may have taken for granted.  So many who volunteer for organizations during the Christmas rush have remarked that their Christmas seems so much more meaningful to them.  During Lent, when we may want to hibernate away, volunteering could draw us out into a Community who needs us and everyone thrives when they are needed.

Share with us what you re doing to make this Lent a real PAA :)

Thursday, March 14, 2013

Advent Leads to Lenten Journey

Is it possible that I actually posted about my own elementary school just  few days before the tragic events of Sandy Hook?  Thrilled to be blogging again, with actual time carved into my schedule for writing, I looked forward to posting a few times a week.  Then another tragedy with the name Sandy, unleashed its wrath on the recovering Northeast.  

Right during the season of Advent.

Many shut down,
 many cried out, 
many went inside
 and many came forth:
 all in the act of  grieving children, 
many children.

Most of the world was scarred by the events of 12/14/13; the numbers of that day do not even sound logical when you say them out loud and the stories of the children's lives are completely out of logical order.  

Tragic grief has no answers for those who remain physically unharmed but emotionally scarred;
for those who  are left behind.  

Trying to pick up the pieces of the events is emotionally exhausting.
There will ALWAYS be a piece missing.  

Somehow  and  some way,
  with  resolve, 
the missing piece will be filled with a brand new piece:
forgiveness:
 a piece that will never be an exact fit but
 will be shaped and molded and reshaped  and will 
eventually
with  prayer and support and love
be a good fit.


Remember, however, there will still remain, grief.
Maybe it will not be  as astronomical as time goes on, but if there is a hole in the family's lives, a tragic hole; there will always be various amounts of grief.
Their hearts will never be happy that their children are gone; so there remains:
grief and forgiveness.

Which together can almost make the puzzle of life complete.

Can we, during this Lenten journey forgive what  happened that dreadful day?

I' m still working on it.

He was after all only human, not perfect